Hello reader, and welcome (back) to Writer Central!
Today I’m going to talk about haters. What is a hater? Answer this question in your head before you keep reading.
By definition of the Urban Dictionary, a hater is “a being who speaks badly, and/or takes negative actions in attempt to create problems for a successful person.” But sometimes negative actions can be helpful. So how do we tell the difference between someone who is helping you and someone who is being just flat-out mean just for the purpose of pushing you down? And how one to deal with the latter if it is the case?
Well, constructive feedback is usually from someone who means well and wants to help you progress, or someone just being completely honest to you. This person would say something like this, “I think your writing is really good, but I also think you should cut out some of your description. I found it boring to sit through, and think others would feel similarly.”
You might be thinking that this is a hater comment, but it’s not! This person is telling you the truth in a way that will only help you move forward. A hater would just say something like this, “You can never become a writer because you’re terrible at everything you do.” This person is, deep down, envious because they know you are on your way to succeeding and you aren’t. These are the people who are trying to push you back, but what they don’t realize is that they are making you stronger. The important thing is that you realize that.
Think about why they’re hating on you. Think about the fact that they’re just insecure about themselves. Think about how you can be better than them. Use their hate as a goal to make you succeed and show them they were wrong. Turn the hate around and use it to make you stronger.
Even very successful writers have haters. Haters are a good way to make you stronger, to build on your insecure weaknesses, your fears that everyone hates you. I promise that not every one hates you, that you will always have supporters. But this might have to be something you realize on your own. Everyone has those down moments where they feel like everyone’s against them, and I’m sure you are not an exception.
If you know someone who is hating on you, the easiest thing to do is block them out, ignore them. But this can be a nearly impossible task if your “hater” is a family member. I plan to write a blog post on that soon.
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